Blackburn Bits #11 – Individuality

The Blackburn Memoirs
Zy Marquiez
February 28, 2020

No matter who you are, it is downright crucial to embrace who you are, no matter what. It’s not always easy, but its possible, and its ultimately the only way that you could ever be the best you, for how could you ever the best version of yourself, if you do not embrace yourself in your totality?

Likewise, the more you embrace your individuality the more your vibes will resonate significantly and you’ll be able to find your vibe tribe, those that understand you for you, and not simply the mask that you (and each of us) choose to wear daily.

As I’ve often written, there are people that will only accept you for you, as long as you are flawless, as long as you are perfect. That is not a sensible thing to expect from anyone. But many people see others expecting that, which is why individuals end up holding back regarding their personalities, likes or dislikes, etc., never showing their true selves, or any shade that might even compromise that perfect image that some often expect.

Not only are those impossible standards to attain, but that’s being highly conformist when someone expects you to fit within a (perfect) box. Anyone can accept your light shades, but its takes a true friends to accept every strand of your existence, every shade within your spectrum.

THOSE people more than anything are your vibe tribe. And I am incredibly thankful for all of those that I have gotten to know over my life that fit that bill.

You all have a wonderful day.

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Blackburn Bits #9: Individuality & Staying True To Yourself
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Noctis Blackburn is the author of Amor Vincit Omnia – Love Conquers All under his Zy Marquiez Pen name, and also an avid book reviewer, poet, inquirer, an open-minded skeptic, health freedom advocate, and writer who aims at empowering individuals in many ways in his Breakaway Individual Blog.

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Blackburn Bits #9 – Individuality & Staying True To Yourself | #Mindset #Individuality

The Blackburn Memoirs
Noctis Blackburn
January 30, 2020

Life’s incredible in that you get to meet people from all walks of life.  The more you expose yourself to different individuals, the more you learn about the range people have, and the depth that cultures have depending on where that person is from and where they were raised. 

Be that as it may, for myriad reasons, many people struggle with staying true to themselves.  Whether it’s social upbringing, conformity that comes from all directions, or simply trying to fit in, the issue of not being wholly authentic and happy in your own skin plagues many individuals from all walks of life, and it can shackle someone’s soul in endless ways.  Not being true to you is like having a box of crayons, and always panting in one color because you are expected to (or may even want to if you are conforming yourself) only employing one color and hence, not employing the full kaleidoscope of colors that are available for you.  Worse, such instances zap your spirit in countless ways.

As an example, for the longest time, I struggled with the fact that I was a writer, poet, and love reading.  Why?  Because one way or another, some people judge you for all three.  But I got tired of it, and decided that if I wasn’t being true to myself, I wasn’t living life to the fullest. 

How could a person, in any way shape or form, be living a boundless life, if they are only showing a fraction of who they truly are and what they really love?  And it doesn’t matter what you enjoy and love doing, if it’s your passion, OWN IT.  F**k what other people think. 

As an adjunct to the previous example, I still remember the looks I used to get when I started taking books into the gym to be efficient to read and write between sets since I hate wasting time, with some people giving me the look like “Is he for real?”  HELL YES I’M FOR REAL!   I love reading, I love writing, and I’m not going to cap myself because some people decided to judge me without knowing me. 

I also realize why I get judged a lot, and one of my close friends told me this long ago. She said something along the lines of, “You don’t look like a nerd, dress like a nerd, or even joke like a nerd, but deep down inside, you’re the BIGGEST NERD I KNOW!” And that never occurred to me until she said it, but it was true. I can’t help who I am or what I love doing. I just own it now. Or in other words, what I was going through is what is called judging a book, by its cover. How ironic is that?

It’s odd that in a culture that’s supposed to extol freedom, conformity seems to be the prescribed theme most of the time.  But there is no growth in that.

And the best part of simply being yourself is that you will begin finding your vibe tribe, those that’ll appreciate you for you without any agendas at bay, without any complications, always authentic in their own skin, no matter what.

You were meant to stand out, so do it.  Own it.  Become the person you always wished to be, because life’s too short to live only showing a fraction of who you truly are.

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Read More:

Blackburn Bits #1: Life & Humor
Blackburn Bits #2: Libraries
Blackburn Bits #3: Books As Gifts & Friendships
Blackburn Bits #4: Agreeing To Disagree
Blackburn Bits #5: Privacy Considerations
Blackburn Bits #6: A Slice Of Substance
Blackburn Bits #7: Venturing Outside of Comfort Zones
Blackburn Bits #8: A Life Of Depth
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Noctis Blackburn (aka. Zy Marquiez) is an author, bibliophile, writer, poet, dreamer, star gazer, autodidact, logician, researcher, lover of life, Carmel Macchiatto addict, and more.
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