Blackburn Bits #3 – Books As Gifts & Friendships | #WritingCommunity #Life #Friends

“Friendship is not something you learn in school.  But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything.”
– Muhamaad Ali

I loved reading the above so much. In fact, just days ago, I told a friend of mine something someone told me once. They mentioned how when two people meet, although they have a lot in common, they might or might not have something in common with YOU on a deeper level. For instance, a shared experience, a shared memory, etc. This is because that requires time, and when relationships (of all types) start, you don’t have a lot of shared experiences, even though you might or might not have common ground.

But, if you do want to deliberately share experiences and get to know what really makes that person tick, ask them what their favorite movie or book is, perhaps their favorite song, and query them about it in depth. Then, you pick what their favorite movie, book, or song is, and GET TO KNOW THAT by heart. That its paramount to understanding them on a deeper level. This is so crucial on so many levels.

I would argue that a book or movie is better to dive in depth with, only because it offers much more latitude to talk about and explore, together, and that way the friendship can grow. If a song is chosen, or many songs, then that’s fine too.

The whole point is that, sometimes, if you really want to get to know someone, REALLY want to BOND with them, you HAVE to make effort. And see, whether or not this is reciprocated doesn’t matter as much as you doing it, because you truly want to get to know that person on a deeper level. Why? Those that will appreciate it will grow with you and get to know you as you, and those that don’t really put an effort in doing something so meaningful with you in the first place, probably were never worth your time investment. Either way, its the approach I try to take when I’m truly trying to get to know people as real friends, and something I urge others to consider as well given how much we can gain from it.
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