Blackburn Bits #11 – Individuality

The Blackburn Memoirs
Zy Marquiez
February 28, 2020

No matter who you are, it is downright crucial to embrace who you are, no matter what. It’s not always easy, but its possible, and its ultimately the only way that you could ever be the best you, for how could you ever the best version of yourself, if you do not embrace yourself in your totality?

Likewise, the more you embrace your individuality the more your vibes will resonate significantly and you’ll be able to find your vibe tribe, those that understand you for you, and not simply the mask that you (and each of us) choose to wear daily.

As I’ve often written, there are people that will only accept you for you, as long as you are flawless, as long as you are perfect. That is not a sensible thing to expect from anyone. But many people see others expecting that, which is why individuals end up holding back regarding their personalities, likes or dislikes, etc., never showing their true selves, or any shade that might even compromise that perfect image that some often expect.

Not only are those impossible standards to attain, but that’s being highly conformist when someone expects you to fit within a (perfect) box. Anyone can accept your light shades, but its takes a true friends to accept every strand of your existence, every shade within your spectrum.

THOSE people more than anything are your vibe tribe. And I am incredibly thankful for all of those that I have gotten to know over my life that fit that bill.

You all have a wonderful day.

***********************************************
Read More:

Are You Living Your Dreams?
Blackburn Bits #1: Life & Humor
Blackburn Bits #2: Libraries
Blackburn Bits #3: Books As Gifts & Friendships
Blackburn Bits #4: Agreeing To Disagree
Blackburn Bits #5: Privacy Considerations
Blackburn Bits #6: A Slice Of Substance
Blackburn Bits #7: Venturing Outside of Comfort Zones
Blackburn Bits #8: A Life Of Depth
Blackburn Bits #9: Individuality & Staying True To Yourself
Blackburn Bits #10: Life, Inspiration & Your Dreams
***********************************************

About Me:

Noctis Blackburn is the author of Amor Vincit Omnia – Love Conquers All under his Zy Marquiez Pen name, and also an avid book reviewer, poet, inquirer, an open-minded skeptic, health freedom advocate, and writer who aims at empowering individuals in many ways in his Breakaway Individual Blog.

Follow on Youtube: Click Here
Follow On Twitter: @NoctisBlackburn | https://twitter.com/NoctisBlackburn
Follow Noctis Blackburn On Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/NoctisBlackburn
Follow Zy Marquiez On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/zy.marquiez/
Follow on Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/TheBlackburnMemoirs
Follow my Zy Marquiez Pen Name on Facebook: www.facebook.com/AKaleidoscopeOfPossibilities
Add me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Noctis.Blackburn

Blackburn Bits #8 – A Life Of Depth | #Life #Quotes #Emerson #Writing

“Identify what stops you from being your ideal version of yourself.  This is a core part of personal growth work.”
– Dr. Zwig

At my current personal juncture, I’m goinge through a serious recalibrating of many habits that do not allow me the growth that I’ve been seeking for quite some time.  In the past, I’ve been at various points where I was satisfied with my own personal steps that sought growth in various directions, but of late, I wasn’t accomplishing as much as I would have liked to in life because I steered away from the proactive steps I was taking previously, but wasn’t taking of late. 

To solve those glaring oversights, I needed to handle my main problem, which was the amount of time I spent on social media. I wrote about it in the past, but as a quick synopsis, on average I spent well over 100 hours of a month, nigh every single month last year wasting time on social media.  That seems outlandish, except some people spend a few multiples of that when it comes down to it.  It’s actually a much more serious issue than it seems at first blush, but I won’t delve into that now.  The point is that if I was going to get to the self-reinforcing positive habits that I love doing, which are writing poetry and blogs, and conducting reading while also doing research, I needed to quite overlooking main and most obvious vacuum of time, which was social media. 

Sometimes readjusting your time is easy, and sometimes is hard, as social media can be highly addictive, as psychologist Stephanie Brown PhD discuses in her book, Speed – Facing Our Addiction To Fast & Faster – And Overcoming Our Fear Of Slowing Down.  Either way, easy or not, it needed to be done.

There are other bad habits that I also have and I’m working on overcoming, such as not being mindful about what I eat and so on, but the largest one that affected me the most is social media by far.  And while I still plan on using social media as needed, I’m going to be mindful about it and efficient as well.  But creating a positive habit is one thing, keeping those habits is the hard part.  This is why I need to be mindful about it as I continue to move forward given the goals that I have this year, be them personal, business, writing, and so on.

As I do that, I’ll be able to follow the steps that I’m going to take and was taking in the past, thus bit by bit, continue to achieve the goals that I set for myself. I know many of the goals will not be easy, particularly with writing and so on, but obstacles are something that allows for growth and are part of life, so I shall learn from them every step of the way.

And I hope that in whatever goals each of you are undertaking at the moment, you all seek to take a really proactive approach to achieving those dreams as well.

************************************************
Personal Note:

I’m going to be doing a larger Blog Update soon. I’m in the process of getting another admin or two of my Facebook pages, since I’m also using my old one again, that couples into another Blog I’m also going to be writing on as well, so I will be quite busy. Finally, I know the mailing list has grown overtime even though I’ve neglected this blog quite a bit, but I really want to thank those of you who have stuck around and continued to support the blog when possible. I You all have a stellar evening.

***********************************************
Read More:

Blackburn Bits #1: Life & Humor
Blackburn Bits #2: Libraries
Blackburn Bits #3: Books As Gifts & Friendships
Blackburn Bits #4: Agreeing To Disagree
Blackburn Bits #5: Privacy Considerations
Blackburn Bits #6: A Slice Of Substance
Blackburn Bits #7: Venturing Outside of Comfort Zones
***********************************************

About Me:

Noctis Blackburn (aka. Zy Marquiez) is an author, bibliophile, writer, poet, dreamer, star gazer, autodidact, logician, researcher, lover of life, Carmel Macchiatto addict, and more.
Follow on Youtube: Click Here
Follow On Twitter: @NoctisBlackburn | https://twitter.com/NoctisBlackburn
Follow Noctis Blackburn On Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/NoctisBlackburn
Follow Zy Marquiez On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/zy.marquiez/
Follow on Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/TheBlackburnMemoirs
Follow my Zy Marquiez Pen Name on Facebook: www.facebook.com/AKaleidoscopeOfPossibilities
Add me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Noctis.Blackburn

Blackburn Bits #7 – Venturing Outside Comfort Zones

“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone”
– Neal Donald Walsch

It’s intriguing when you’re mindset shifts. Not long ago, although I always considered myself strong in certain aspects of mindset, that wasn’t the case with everything. Trying new things, venturing outside of my comfort zones, and steamrolling towards my dreams, was something that always seemed like trying to climb Mount Everest as a snail on crutches. Except, there is no mountain, except those we impose upon ourselves. That doesn’t mean there are no obstacles, but we as individuals need not add complications to those circumstances.

Thankfully, now, I rarely talk myself out of venturing outside of my comfort zones. It does happen at times though, but I do try, and often. Even if it fails, and that’s okay. The feedback of failure is actually something that can lead in separate directions, a positive, and a negative one. And when it comes to failure, what’s the worst thing that happens if you fail at something like a dream or goal? You fail, that’s it. It isn’t death. It’s not a catastrophe. It’s just failure, something we get over, but something that can serve as part of the foundation or growth if you so choose.

But what happens if you succeeded? It changes your life in more ways than you can possibly imagine. And I’m thankful for having gotten over my fear of venturing outside of comfort zones, because had I not, in some capacity I wouldn’t have met most (or even all) of you under varying circumstances. This is because at minimum, I had to venture outside of my comfort zones, and now I’m thankful for everything in some capacity, even failures. Especially since failing at something shows how you can adapt, grow, become something more, perhaps different than you thought, but still, a better version of you. Or not. Just depends on the steps you take. And even if its baby steps, any step forward counts.

So why not keep taking steps forward instead of staying stagnant?

***********************************************
Read More:

Blackburn Bits #1: Life & Humor
Blackburn Bits #2: Libraries
Blackburn Bits #3: Books As Gifts & Friendships
Blackburn Bits #4: Agreeing To Disagree
Blackburn Bits #5: Privacy Considerations
Blackburn Bits #6: A Slice Of Substance
***********************************************

About Me:

Noctis Blackburn (aka. Zy Marquiez) is an author, bibliophile, writer, poet, dreamer, star gazer, autodidact, logician, researcher, lover of life, Carmel Macchiatto addict, and more.
Follow on Youtube: Click Here
Follow On Twitter: @NoctisBlackburn | https://twitter.com/NoctisBlackburn
Follow Noctis Blackburn On Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/NoctisBlackburn
Follow Zy Marquiez On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/zy.marquiez/
Follow on Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/TheBlackburnMemoirs
Follow my Zy Marquiez Pen Name on Facebook: www.facebook.com/AKaleidoscopeOfPossibilities
Add me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Noctis.Blackburn

Blackburn Bits #5 – Privacy Considerations

The world we live in is no longer the world our parents grew up in.  These days, personal information has been monetized by corporations for myriad reasons, showing the premium than private data has for certain sects of society, particularly the criminal underworld. 

In a perfectly moral world, such considerations wouldn’t even taken place, but we live not in a ‘perfect’ world, we live in a world where information isn’t only used against individuals to make money off of them, but sometimes, criminal elements of society will use that information to control individuals into doing whatever questionable acts they deem fit. 

Moral of the story, be careful who you share your information with, particularly personal information like your full name, address, work place, personal pictures, and anything else, and also be careful where you share that information, because at times that’s just as important as the information shared, if not more so.  All of this might be obvious, but given that much of what’s obvious (i.e. people “should” eat healthy) can often be glossed over easily, I share this as a reminder to hopefully urge individuals to be more mindful of such considerations.  

***********************************************
Read More:

Blackburn Bits #1: Life & Humor
Blackburn Bits #2: Libraries
Blackburn Bits #3: Books As Gifts & Friendships
Blackburn Bits #4: Agreeing To Disagree
***********************************************

About Me:

Noctis Blackburn (aka. Zy Marquiez) is an author, bibliophile, writer, poet, dreamer, star gazer, autodidact, logician, researcher, lover of life, Carmel Macchiatto addict, and more.
Follow on Youtube: Click Here
Follow On Twitter: @NoctisBlackburn | https://twitter.com/NoctisBlackburn
Follow Noctis Blackburn On Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/NoctisBlackburn
Follow Zy Marquiez On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/zy.marquiez/
Follow on Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/TheBlackburnMemoirs
Follow my Zy Marquiez Pen Name on Facebook: www.facebook.com/AKaleidoscopeOfPossibilities
Add me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Noctis.Blackburn


Blackburn Bits #2 – Libraries | #Books #Libraries #Reading

NoctisBlackburn.com
September 9, 2019

There are many reasons why I absolutely find libraries incredibly intriguing and refreshing. 

Containing veritable memories of the past, be they in fictional or nonfictional format, libraries have always invigorated my soul, for they offer a kaleidoscope of wonder from which to draw upon and examine at length, and countless ways in which individuals can indulge in the exploration of thougth that others have laid down before them.

When I was younger, I always dreamed of having a library just like in Beauty & The Beast, and thankfully I’m lucky enough to have a large library of nigh 1000 books.  Although most of these are of the nonfiction variety for research purposes, I enjoy them all nonetheless.  I have always found incredible inspiration in books of all types, and find them to be one of the most underrated aspects of media today.

_______________________________________________________________________
Previous Blog:

Blackburn Bits #1 – Life & Humor

____________
About Me:

Noctis Blackburn is an author, bibliophile, writer, poet, dreamer, star gazer, autodidact, logician, researcher, lover of life, Carmel Macchiatto addict, and more.

Follow On Twitter: @NoctisBlackburn | https://twitter.com/NoctisBlackburn
Follow at Instagram: @NoctisBlackburn
Follow on Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/TheBlackburnMemoirs
Add me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Noctis.Blackburn

Blackburn Bits #1 – #Life & #Humor

“A day without laughter is a day wasted.”
– Charlie Chaplin

Recently, I got into a conversation with someone that discussed life and humor. This conversation was intriguing for many reasons, but one of the more interesting points was when we talked about that although life features many moments that deserve serious thought and consideration, not every moment need to be as such. Many moments allow for the latitude of humor to be sprinkled in liberally making things more interesting and fun.

Moreover, while life does have its inherent serious circumstances that require individuals to be serious, having FUN and being yourself, whether its silly or not, is something that although often intimated, doesn’t happen as often as one would think in circumstances outside of the ones that require one to be serious.

Life is roller-coaster that is arduous, thought-provoking, amazing, and certainly much more. But it can also be fun when the time is right, so hesitate not in enjoying circumstances, or sprinkling humor when you can, because it often makes moments not only much more fun, but incredibly memorable, too.