Blackburn Bits #10 – Life, Inspiration & Your Dreams

The Blackburn Memoirs
Noctis Blackburn
February 9, 2020

With the above image in mind, which mindset do you employ?

I have always been fascinated by the mindset each individual employs, as we all tend to decide the lives that we live based on those views. Mindset is paramount, as growth and change are born out of it. And growth is born out of our continual stoking of the fires that feed our soul.

For me, writing is one of the main things that helps feed my soul. Exploring and learning about life also does the same, too. And all of that has helped me grow faster and in more directions than I ever though I would. I wouldn’t be here now doing this if that wasn’t the case.

Whatever happens, make sure you start, or keep doing what feeds your soul continually, no matter what it is. By continually feeding your soul with that which you genuinely Love to do the most, you’ll get an endless well of energy that’ll continually keep you ignited to do whatever it is you wish to do for yourself. That’s how you begin creating those avalanches of growth that make every day like a new canvas so you can continually use to create the life of your dreams.

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Blackburn Bits #3: Books As Gifts & Friendships
Blackburn Bits #4: Agreeing To Disagree
Blackburn Bits #5: Privacy Considerations
Blackburn Bits #6: A Slice Of Substance
Blackburn Bits #7: Venturing Outside of Comfort Zones
Blackburn Bits #8: A Life Of Depth
Blackburn Bits #9: Individuality & Staying True To Yourself
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Noctis Blackburn (aka. Zy Marquiez) is an author, bibliophile, writer, poet, dreamer, star gazer, autodidact, logician, researcher, lover of life, Carmel Macchiatto addict, and more.
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Blackburn Bits #9 – Individuality & Staying True To Yourself | #Mindset #Individuality

The Blackburn Memoirs
Noctis Blackburn
January 30, 2020

Life’s incredible in that you get to meet people from all walks of life.  The more you expose yourself to different individuals, the more you learn about the range people have, and the depth that cultures have depending on where that person is from and where they were raised. 

Be that as it may, for myriad reasons, many people struggle with staying true to themselves.  Whether it’s social upbringing, conformity that comes from all directions, or simply trying to fit in, the issue of not being wholly authentic and happy in your own skin plagues many individuals from all walks of life, and it can shackle someone’s soul in endless ways.  Not being true to you is like having a box of crayons, and always panting in one color because you are expected to (or may even want to if you are conforming yourself) only employing one color and hence, not employing the full kaleidoscope of colors that are available for you.  Worse, such instances zap your spirit in countless ways.

As an example, for the longest time, I struggled with the fact that I was a writer, poet, and love reading.  Why?  Because one way or another, some people judge you for all three.  But I got tired of it, and decided that if I wasn’t being true to myself, I wasn’t living life to the fullest. 

How could a person, in any way shape or form, be living a boundless life, if they are only showing a fraction of who they truly are and what they really love?  And it doesn’t matter what you enjoy and love doing, if it’s your passion, OWN IT.  F**k what other people think. 

As an adjunct to the previous example, I still remember the looks I used to get when I started taking books into the gym to be efficient to read and write between sets since I hate wasting time, with some people giving me the look like “Is he for real?”  HELL YES I’M FOR REAL!   I love reading, I love writing, and I’m not going to cap myself because some people decided to judge me without knowing me. 

I also realize why I get judged a lot, and one of my close friends told me this long ago. She said something along the lines of, “You don’t look like a nerd, dress like a nerd, or even joke like a nerd, but deep down inside, you’re the BIGGEST NERD I KNOW!” And that never occurred to me until she said it, but it was true. I can’t help who I am or what I love doing. I just own it now. Or in other words, what I was going through is what is called judging a book, by its cover. How ironic is that?

It’s odd that in a culture that’s supposed to extol freedom, conformity seems to be the prescribed theme most of the time.  But there is no growth in that.

And the best part of simply being yourself is that you will begin finding your vibe tribe, those that’ll appreciate you for you without any agendas at bay, without any complications, always authentic in their own skin, no matter what.

You were meant to stand out, so do it.  Own it.  Become the person you always wished to be, because life’s too short to live only showing a fraction of who you truly are.

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Blackburn Bits #4: Agreeing To Disagree
Blackburn Bits #5: Privacy Considerations
Blackburn Bits #6: A Slice Of Substance
Blackburn Bits #7: Venturing Outside of Comfort Zones
Blackburn Bits #8: A Life Of Depth
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About Me:

Noctis Blackburn (aka. Zy Marquiez) is an author, bibliophile, writer, poet, dreamer, star gazer, autodidact, logician, researcher, lover of life, Carmel Macchiatto addict, and more.
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Blackburn Bits #8 – A Life Of Depth | #Life #Quotes #Emerson #Writing

“Identify what stops you from being your ideal version of yourself.  This is a core part of personal growth work.”
– Dr. Zwig

At my current personal juncture, I’m goinge through a serious recalibrating of many habits that do not allow me the growth that I’ve been seeking for quite some time.  In the past, I’ve been at various points where I was satisfied with my own personal steps that sought growth in various directions, but of late, I wasn’t accomplishing as much as I would have liked to in life because I steered away from the proactive steps I was taking previously, but wasn’t taking of late. 

To solve those glaring oversights, I needed to handle my main problem, which was the amount of time I spent on social media. I wrote about it in the past, but as a quick synopsis, on average I spent well over 100 hours of a month, nigh every single month last year wasting time on social media.  That seems outlandish, except some people spend a few multiples of that when it comes down to it.  It’s actually a much more serious issue than it seems at first blush, but I won’t delve into that now.  The point is that if I was going to get to the self-reinforcing positive habits that I love doing, which are writing poetry and blogs, and conducting reading while also doing research, I needed to quite overlooking main and most obvious vacuum of time, which was social media. 

Sometimes readjusting your time is easy, and sometimes is hard, as social media can be highly addictive, as psychologist Stephanie Brown PhD discuses in her book, Speed – Facing Our Addiction To Fast & Faster – And Overcoming Our Fear Of Slowing Down.  Either way, easy or not, it needed to be done.

There are other bad habits that I also have and I’m working on overcoming, such as not being mindful about what I eat and so on, but the largest one that affected me the most is social media by far.  And while I still plan on using social media as needed, I’m going to be mindful about it and efficient as well.  But creating a positive habit is one thing, keeping those habits is the hard part.  This is why I need to be mindful about it as I continue to move forward given the goals that I have this year, be them personal, business, writing, and so on.

As I do that, I’ll be able to follow the steps that I’m going to take and was taking in the past, thus bit by bit, continue to achieve the goals that I set for myself. I know many of the goals will not be easy, particularly with writing and so on, but obstacles are something that allows for growth and are part of life, so I shall learn from them every step of the way.

And I hope that in whatever goals each of you are undertaking at the moment, you all seek to take a really proactive approach to achieving those dreams as well.

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Personal Note:

I’m going to be doing a larger Blog Update soon. I’m in the process of getting another admin or two of my Facebook pages, since I’m also using my old one again, that couples into another Blog I’m also going to be writing on as well, so I will be quite busy. Finally, I know the mailing list has grown overtime even though I’ve neglected this blog quite a bit, but I really want to thank those of you who have stuck around and continued to support the blog when possible. I You all have a stellar evening.

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Blackburn Bits #4: Agreeing To Disagree
Blackburn Bits #5: Privacy Considerations
Blackburn Bits #6: A Slice Of Substance
Blackburn Bits #7: Venturing Outside of Comfort Zones
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About Me:

Noctis Blackburn (aka. Zy Marquiez) is an author, bibliophile, writer, poet, dreamer, star gazer, autodidact, logician, researcher, lover of life, Carmel Macchiatto addict, and more.
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Blackburn Bits #7 – Venturing Outside Comfort Zones

“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone”
– Neal Donald Walsch

It’s intriguing when you’re mindset shifts. Not long ago, although I always considered myself strong in certain aspects of mindset, that wasn’t the case with everything. Trying new things, venturing outside of my comfort zones, and steamrolling towards my dreams, was something that always seemed like trying to climb Mount Everest as a snail on crutches. Except, there is no mountain, except those we impose upon ourselves. That doesn’t mean there are no obstacles, but we as individuals need not add complications to those circumstances.

Thankfully, now, I rarely talk myself out of venturing outside of my comfort zones. It does happen at times though, but I do try, and often. Even if it fails, and that’s okay. The feedback of failure is actually something that can lead in separate directions, a positive, and a negative one. And when it comes to failure, what’s the worst thing that happens if you fail at something like a dream or goal? You fail, that’s it. It isn’t death. It’s not a catastrophe. It’s just failure, something we get over, but something that can serve as part of the foundation or growth if you so choose.

But what happens if you succeeded? It changes your life in more ways than you can possibly imagine. And I’m thankful for having gotten over my fear of venturing outside of comfort zones, because had I not, in some capacity I wouldn’t have met most (or even all) of you under varying circumstances. This is because at minimum, I had to venture outside of my comfort zones, and now I’m thankful for everything in some capacity, even failures. Especially since failing at something shows how you can adapt, grow, become something more, perhaps different than you thought, but still, a better version of you. Or not. Just depends on the steps you take. And even if its baby steps, any step forward counts.

So why not keep taking steps forward instead of staying stagnant?

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Blackburn Bits #4: Agreeing To Disagree
Blackburn Bits #5: Privacy Considerations
Blackburn Bits #6: A Slice Of Substance
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About Me:

Noctis Blackburn (aka. Zy Marquiez) is an author, bibliophile, writer, poet, dreamer, star gazer, autodidact, logician, researcher, lover of life, Carmel Macchiatto addict, and more.
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Blackburn Bits #6 – A Slice Of Substance

“The echoes of beauty you’ve seen transpire, resound through dying coals of a campfire.”
– Ernest Hemingway

It’s been quite a long time since I’ve made an actual campfire, but I do love reading and writing when cozying up by the fireplace, which has been something I’ve done for years, which is a suitable alternative. In fact, there’s a couple of cords of firewood ever-present here, because that’s how much I enjoy that seemingly inconsequential past time. Except it is not, not be a wide margin.

Having the ability to make a small fire at home might not seem like a big deal, bit it is in my estimation. It’s something of substance that one can do at home that allows for a fresh breath of air that infuses inspiration into one’s soul. Fortuitously enough, although a campfire wasn’t on my agenda during the holidays, during winter vacation I was lucky enough to spend a bit of time in North AZ, although unlucky enough to be met by multiple snowstorms.

Now, I don’t regret it one bit, though the snow got intense at times. But there’s beauty in that intensity, there’s beauty in those moments when we have the latitude to spend time in nature, doing something of substance, like writing. That’s one of the reasons I love fires, because not only do I write and read by default, but the process of creating a fire mirrors that of writing.

In varying ways, mindfulness, as homing in on the specific and much-needed steps that are required for the creation of what you wish to do, is something that isn’t only cathartic in both writing and firecraft, but breathes a breath of fresh air into life.

Perhaps, gravitating to the flames by a fireplace might not be for everyone, but for me, that little slice of heaven is my sanctum of solace, my haven of perfection, and I wouldn’t change it for anything.

Except for campfires. I certainly would change it for that.

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Blackburn Bits #4: Agreeing To Disagree
Blackburn Bits #5: Privacy Considerations
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About Me:

Noctis Blackburn (aka. Zy Marquiez) is an author, bibliophile, writer, poet, dreamer, star gazer, autodidact, logician, researcher, lover of life, Carmel Macchiatto addict, and more.
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Blackburn Bits #5 – Privacy Considerations

The world we live in is no longer the world our parents grew up in.  These days, personal information has been monetized by corporations for myriad reasons, showing the premium than private data has for certain sects of society, particularly the criminal underworld. 

In a perfectly moral world, such considerations wouldn’t even taken place, but we live not in a ‘perfect’ world, we live in a world where information isn’t only used against individuals to make money off of them, but sometimes, criminal elements of society will use that information to control individuals into doing whatever questionable acts they deem fit. 

Moral of the story, be careful who you share your information with, particularly personal information like your full name, address, work place, personal pictures, and anything else, and also be careful where you share that information, because at times that’s just as important as the information shared, if not more so.  All of this might be obvious, but given that much of what’s obvious (i.e. people “should” eat healthy) can often be glossed over easily, I share this as a reminder to hopefully urge individuals to be more mindful of such considerations.  

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Blackburn Bits #4: Agreeing To Disagree
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About Me:

Noctis Blackburn (aka. Zy Marquiez) is an author, bibliophile, writer, poet, dreamer, star gazer, autodidact, logician, researcher, lover of life, Carmel Macchiatto addict, and more.
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Blackburn Bits #4 – Agreeing To Disagree

The above sentiment might seem obvious, but given that many things that seem obvious aren’t really acted upon as such, I find the above sentiment worth noting.

Moreover, since many times it is apparent that individuals end up taking disagreements highly personal, particularly online, the above sentiment is worth noting because, contrary to popular opinion, there is nothing wrong with disagreeing with someone. It’s part of being an adult, and/or just simply being mature.

Getting worked up, and risking fracturing a relationship of any type is not worth the idea of winning an argument in my estimation. But those are just my thoughts, and you may disagree, and that would be A-okay. That’s the whole point of this quick bit, realizing that there’s more than one side to every story, and knowing that it’s okay for people to not share the same common ground.

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Blackburn Bits #1: Life & Humor
Blackburn Bits #2: Libraries
Blackburn Bits #3: Books As Gifts & Friendships
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About Me:

Noctis Blackburn (aka. Zy Marquiez) is an author, bibliophile, writer, poet, dreamer, star gazer, autodidact, logician, researcher, lover of life, Carmel Macchiatto addict, and more.
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