The world we live in is no longer the world our parents grew up in. These days, personal information has been monetized by corporations for myriad reasons, showing the premium than private data has for certain sects of society, particularly the criminal underworld.
In a perfectly moral world, such considerations wouldn’t even taken place, but we live not in a ‘perfect’ world, we live in a world where information isn’t only used against individuals to make money off of them, but sometimes, criminal elements of society will use that information to control individuals into doing whatever questionable acts they deem fit.
Moral of the story, be careful who you share your information with, particularly personal information like your full name, address, work place, personal pictures, and anything else, and also be careful where you share that information, because at times that’s just as important as the information shared, if not more so. All of this might be obvious, but given that much of what’s obvious (i.e. people “should” eat healthy) can often be glossed over easily, I share this as a reminder to hopefully urge individuals to be more mindful of such considerations.
The above sentiment might seem obvious, but given that many things that seem obvious aren’t really acted upon as such, I find the above sentiment worth noting.
Moreover, since many times it is apparent that individuals end up taking disagreements highly personal, particularly online, the above sentiment is worth noting because, contrary to popular opinion, there is nothing wrong with disagreeing with someone. It’s part of being an adult, and/or just simply being mature.
Getting worked up, and risking fracturing a relationship of any type is not worth the idea of winning an argument in my estimation. But those are just my thoughts, and you may disagree, and that would be A-okay. That’s the whole point of this quick bit, realizing that there’s more than one side to every story, and knowing that it’s okay for people to not share the same common ground.
As far as writing is concerned, I have stayed focused on that for the most part. Even so, I find myself failing with the blog because even though I have been writing regularly, I have not been uploading content. Some of this is due to lack of mindfulness, but I have been making poor choices as far as the Blog is concerned, given that it doesn’t take too much time to upload content that’s already been created. Either way, I’m disappointed in myself, and plan on changing that immediately.
Writing has been ongoing, and I’m actually writing in myriad directions, and its rather fulfilling for the most part. I have managed to remain inspired and focused, while also trying some new things in some areas, but overall, making sure that I have written has gone off without a hitch.
Now, I made two decisions for myself within the last few days that have lead me to this very point. These days, unlike the past, I am not reticent about doing what is best for me, which is why I’m writing this blog in the first place.
The first decision dealt with me trying to clear up something for myself, by being direct with myself about a certain matter, and that didn’t go so well. The whole point is that, in the end, although I continually try to do what’s best for me, it doesn’t always work out. But at least I know that regardless of what happens tomorrow, I tried, and that’s all that matters.
Immediately thereafter, I decided to make the second decision given that it was glaringly obvious that what was best for me was not to be on Instagram at the time. And I shut down all my main IG accounts except one, and I even plan on steering away from that one unless I have a significant reason not to.
Irrespective of that, the whole point is that my choices have been incredibly Love based – doing what’s best for me because I care for myself – rather than when I haven’t done what’s best for myself, like overlooking my health, which is a glaring mistake. On the other side of the spectrum, at times I don’t end up doing what’s ‘best’ for me due to fear-based considerations.
What’s the difference? In the former, I am chasing you dreams, because that’s what’s arguably best for me. The latter, would be me staying in my comfort zone, even though some would argue that that’s what’s best for them. And I hold no judgment as to who makes what choice for themselves, as I’m a huge proponent of Freedom, particularly Freedom of choice.
Every single one of us has a choice to make every single day. In fact, we have hundreds if not thousands of choices we make daily, except, most of them come automatic through the day. But still, we make choices, and it’s in the most important choices that we each make in our lives that we see the most massive shifts. And given that I plan continuing to torpedo right through my fears, I can only do what’s best for me because not doing what’s for me would not only selling myself short, but not living my life to the fullest.
One thing’s certain, at the end of my life, I don’t want to have any major regrets, which is another reason why I don’t shy away from trying to do what’s best for me, because in the past I would not try something and know how disappointed I felt in myself if I didn’t try something, like applying for a certain job for instance.
Some of you may be asking, or have asked, “Well if writing is so important to you, why don’t you stay on Instagram at a much more limited time?” That’s an excellent question, and one a few people have raised on Facebook given they couldn’t contact me through IG. The reason for that, as I have covered in past videos, is that I’ve gotten into the bad habit (again) of spending a large amount of time, much more than I should be, on Instagram in this instance, but in the past it was on Social Media in general. And while that might work for other people, as I have quite a few friends, some of them best friends, that are literally on Instagram all day long, that just won’t work for me.
That doesn’t mean I won’t use the platform again, it’s just that given how busy I am this time of year in the businesses, and given how much I want to continue writing, I can’t afford to be wasting one or two dozen hours on social media that aren’t going to anything productive or improving my life. You might be asking, so what exactly do I deem productive? Some of this is writing, interacting with people, supporting others, getting to know people in depth, etc. But a lot of the time I spent was following trails of Memes, or spending lots of time looking at travel locations, or any type of pictures that could serve as a prompt or inspiration with writing for me.
Regardless, I have to draw the line somewhere. I can’t afford to be losing huge slots of time by doing that. And I don’t regret any of the meaningful things I was doing on IG, like getting to know people, or supporting their work, sharing poems, etc. That I could never regret, particularly getting to know people, because unlike the other things, you don’t always have an opportunity to interact with someone one on one, so when that happens I cherish it incredibly because (1) it doesn’t happen often enough I believe, and (2) it might not happen soon or ever again, which is why I always try and remain in the moment when I’m trying to talk to people, find out what they enjoy, and all that jazz.
The whole point is that, I got into the exact bad habit that made me waste over 1000 hours of my life on social media this year, and if I really hope to do what’s best for myself, there is just no way on Earth I could ever do what’s best for me while having Social Media, or specifically in my case, Instagram, siphon so much time from me, particularly at a time of year when time is so precious and at a premium.
With all that in mind, I shall continue to do what’s best for me, and hopefully I can continue to achieve everything I can achieve as an individual, while always remaining open to the fluidity of life and the possibilities that may arise. And although I certainly didn’t plan on detaching myself this much from social media, I know myself and I know if I didn’t do it my health would pay the price with increased stress and so on, as has happened in the past.
Do I plan on using IG again? Sure. But for now, using it like I was using it before just won’t work. I do want to use it in a limited way to post poetry, but time (and my health) will tell.
I hope you are all doing fantastic, and always remember, dreams don’t happen over tonight. You have to be proactive in the steps you take towards them. But eventually, with enough focus, poise and drive, if you want it bad enough, I do believe it can and will happen more often than not. But you can never give up on yourself, or even the dreams of other, no matter what.
“Friendship is not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything.” – Muhamaad Ali
I loved reading the above so much. In fact, just days ago, I told a friend of mine something someone told me once. They mentioned how when two people meet, although they have a lot in common, they might or might not have something in common with YOU on a deeper level. For instance, a shared experience, a shared memory, etc. This is because that requires time, and when relationships (of all types) start, you don’t have a lot of shared experiences, even though you might or might not have common ground.
But, if you do want to deliberately share experiences and get to know
what really makes that person tick, ask them what their favorite movie
or book is, perhaps their favorite song, and query them about it in
depth. Then, you pick what their favorite movie, book, or song is, and
GET TO KNOW THAT by heart. That its paramount to understanding them on a
deeper level. This is so crucial on so many levels.
argue that a book or movie is better to dive in depth with, only because
it offers much more latitude to talk about and explore, together, and
that way the friendship can grow. If a song is chosen, or many songs,
then that’s fine too.
The whole point is that, sometimes, if you really want to get to know someone, REALLY want to BOND with them, you HAVE to make effort. And see, whether or not this is reciprocated doesn’t matter as much as you doing it, because you truly want to get to know that person on a deeper level. Why? Those that will appreciate it will grow with you and get to know you as you, and those that don’t really put an effort in doing something so meaningful with you in the first place, probably were never worth your time investment. Either way, its the approach I try to take when I’m truly trying to get to know people as real friends, and something I urge others to consider as well given how much we can gain from it. *********************************************** Read More:
There are many reasons why I absolutely find libraries
incredibly intriguing and refreshing.
Containing veritable memories of the past, be they in
fictional or nonfictional format, libraries have always invigorated my soul,
for they offer a kaleidoscope of wonder from which to draw upon and examine at
length, and countless ways in which individuals can indulge in the exploration
of thougth that others have laid down before them.
When I was younger, I always dreamed of having a library
just like in Beauty & The Beast, and thankfully I’m lucky enough to have a
large library of nigh 1000 books.
Although most of these are of the nonfiction variety for research
purposes, I enjoy them all nonetheless.
I have always found incredible inspiration in books of all types, and
find them to be one of the most underrated aspects of media today.
“A day without laughter is a day wasted.” – Charlie Chaplin
Recently, I got into a conversation with someone that discussed life and humor. This conversation was intriguing for many reasons, but one of the more interesting points was when we talked about that although life features many moments that deserve serious thought and consideration, not every moment need to be as such. Many moments allow for the latitude of humor to be sprinkled in liberally making things more interesting and fun.
Moreover, while life does have its inherent serious circumstances that require individuals to be serious, having FUN and being yourself, whether its silly or not, is something that although often intimated, doesn’t happen as often as one would think in circumstances outside of the ones that require one to be serious.
Life is roller-coaster that is arduous, thought-provoking, amazing, and certainly much more. But it can also be fun when the time is right, so hesitate not in enjoying circumstances, or sprinkling humor when you can, because it often makes moments not only much more fun, but incredibly memorable, too.