“Friendship is not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything.” – Muhamaad Ali
I loved reading the above so much. In fact, just days ago, I told a friend of mine something someone told me once. They mentioned how when two people meet, although they have a lot in common, they might or might not have something in common with YOU on a deeper level. For instance, a shared experience, a shared memory, etc. This is because that requires time, and when relationships (of all types) start, you don’t have a lot of shared experiences, even though you might or might not have common ground.
But, if you do want to deliberately share experiences and get to know
what really makes that person tick, ask them what their favorite movie
or book is, perhaps their favorite song, and query them about it in
depth. Then, you pick what their favorite movie, book, or song is, and
GET TO KNOW THAT by heart. That its paramount to understanding them on a
deeper level. This is so crucial on so many levels.
I would
argue that a book or movie is better to dive in depth with, only because
it offers much more latitude to talk about and explore, together, and
that way the friendship can grow. If a song is chosen, or many songs,
then that’s fine too.
The whole point is that, sometimes, if you really want to get to know someone, REALLY want to BOND with them, you HAVE to make effort. And see, whether or not this is reciprocated doesn’t matter as much as you doing it, because you truly want to get to know that person on a deeper level. Why? Those that will appreciate it will grow with you and get to know you as you, and those that don’t really put an effort in doing something so meaningful with you in the first place, probably were never worth your time investment. Either way, its the approach I try to take when I’m truly trying to get to know people as real friends, and something I urge others to consider as well given how much we can gain from it. *********************************************** Read More:
This poem (if you could call it that) is not a sleight on my friends, for they are all each incredible, and I truly mean that. Life being life at times, sometimes, a friend often can’t be there for someone else because they’re at work, or have something important to do, and that’s okay. I wanted to add this to the post, because I did not elaborate at length on Instagram, where I originally posted this, given how you only have a certain amount of space to write, and it’s much faster for me to write this on a laptop.
Even so, this is what’s amazing about the human experience. You don’t
have to know someone in any official capacity to impact their life.
People that we will never meet will impact our lives in countless ways,
often in downright incredible ways, ways that we sometimes can’t even
imagine. I elaborated on this in my latest book Amor Vincit Omnia –
Love Conquers All.
Most often, this impact others impart on you
is indirect; other times, this impact is very direct, like you
synchronistically crashing into someone like an idiot, which was what
happened to me when I ran into someone when I was about to walk out of
somewhere because I wasn’t being mindful.
Then hours later, you’ve made a new friend, even though you were on your way out of that establishment. The whole point is that, life being life, even though obstacles will arise on your path, it doesn’t mean everything you face will be an obstacle. On the flip side of obstacles are the more significant moments in life, those that impact you heavily, and sometimes for the rest of the time. In the rarest types, perhaps even lifetimes. That’s just my take on it, and I truly believe that. What’s yours?
Mom ___ The heavens flashed in shades of lightning, with Mother nature’s whispers of thunder caressing the land – reverberations felt through the lurid landscape of life.
Thunderbolts soon after begin painting the countryside one color at a time, one flash at a time, with the brightest shades of white vibrant blue and iridescent purple all fusion constantly and crashing from above, flashing relentlessly through the night like X-Mas tree lights, in a majestic light-show Zeus himself admires from above.
